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Saying No – part 3

Breaking out of the people pleasing cycle .

So I’d like to share some of the things that helped me break free.

First, practice saying NO.

This is a very important word!

Say it as often as you can, just to hear the word come out of your mouth.

Say it out loud when you are alone.

Practice phrases with NO in them, such as, “No, I can’t do that” or “No, I don’t want to go there”.

Try it for simple things first, and then build your way up to harder situations.

Stop saying YES all the time.

Try to pause or take a breath before responding to someone’s request.

You may want to answer requests with “I need to think about it first, I’ll get back to you” or “Let me check my schedule and call you back”.

Use any phrase that you feel comfortable with that gives you time before you automatically respond with YES.

Take small breaks, even if you feel guilty.

You won’t always feel guilty, but most likely in the beginning you will.

Remember that your mental health is well worth the aggravation you may have to take from others.

What’s important is you. When you are healthy and happy, those around you will be healthy and happy too!

Final wrap up coming next

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