LOW SELF ESTEEM? help?
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Kyra asked:
This girl has MAJOR problems with low self esteem. She gets obsessed REALLY easily and she just scares me with her low self esteem. She hits herself when she gets “bad grades” like 80s and makes a BIG deal out of little things like having a small quick convo she had with her mom about her report card (it was like any other report card talk anyone would get). Everything seems frigging HUGE to her, we live in new york so I guess thats a bit absurd to me. How do I help her be a bit more confident, shes been self pitying to the point where I am even tempted to slap her and scream at her to just accept reality. Ugh I’m such a lovely friend -_-
any advice?
well i dont slap her and stuff, and I’ve tried talking but shes just so stubborn, how do I sound non-preachy? and thanks I’ll try being patient and more listening.
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January 9th, 2008 21:05
If her issues are as severe as you’re saying, where she’ll hurt herself for failure and freaks out over very insignificant things, she might be beyond your help. She might need to speak to a counselor, therapist, psychologist, or psychiatrist. You need to be honest with her and tell her that you cannot handle her self-deprecation, and she needs to be more calm or self confident for the sake of YOUR sanity. When she feels like she’s doing it for someone else rather than someone else, she may be more amenable to trying.
You’re a good friend, but there’s only so much you can do. Just keep an eye on her too, and if you see ANYTHING that leads you to believe that she might seriously hurt or kill herself or someone else, you HAVE to tell someone.
Good Luck
January 14th, 2008 15:56
i was like that and i was a spoilt brat (cant say the same thing about her because i dont know her, its just me)… every single little thing was so HUGE to me like i would get panicky (sweaty, shaking) if i think i wouldnt get 100 for a small quiz or i would cry 3 hours if someone said “you are stupid”…
then due to circumstances i had to live away from parents, got a medical, chronic [painful] condition, teased at school and relative home for that condition, failed school etc. etc. (all that in 2 years) now i dont make big deal of things as before anymore (though yea i still have a lot to improve)
just my story